Do I visit Mum or Dad on Christmas Day? Or do I just stay away?

Christmas is either a celebration or not, it seems. One of the reasons it is not a celebration for many people is cultural irrelevance, but for others, it is often a time of bad memories, and gets the blame as the reason families fall out. We think it is safe to say that the seeds […]

Help! I think we need a psychologist in our collaborative divorce

Many moons ago, when Helen and Allen had just met, they took a trip through outback Australia. They had both been working too hard, for too long, without a break from their jobs in the money market. They were high flyers, they had cash to burn, and were both considerable risk takers in all things. […]

“Breaking Up Without Breaking Down”

Is your marriage or relationship ending, or has it ended? Are you feeling hurt and angry? If that is what you are going through, the idea of a Good Divorce or a Kind Divorce might sound impossible. Maybe you don’t feel good or kind yourself right now? Maybe you don’t trust your partner or spouse to be good or kind? You might […]

Divorce and the “Let It Go” T-Shirt

Someone once gave me a T-Shirt with the logo “Let it Go”; I wasn’t sure how to take it. I had a “Who me?” moment or two. But even without my T-shirt experience, I am reluctant to talk to people who are going through the crisis of separation about “letting go” of anything, so I […]

Letting It Go: (Not Quite an Ode to FaceBook).

I thought I would share a conversation from a coaching meeting with a client today. We were talking about a great post we had both seen recently on Face Book from The Power of Positivity, about Ten things to let go of to be happy: “”. My client, let’s call him Jim, said that he […]

‘Put Me Back Together, Your Honour’

Have you ever been through a court battle? If you have, and it felt like being put through a shredder, you are not alone. And you’re not alone in wishing it was somebody’s job to put you back together again after it was all over. Certainly, you will have found that there was no such […]

Calling a Truce in the ‘Kid Wars’.

Advice, advice! There is a lot of it for separating parents, and it can sound very critical of parents. We acknowledge that separation is rarely a smooth ride, for parents or children, and most parents are doing their best. Sometimes that ‘best’ doesn’t look great to an outsider, and to be honest, sometimes not to […]

Divorce Financial Planning – it pays to plan before you leave

DIVORCE FINANCIAL PLANNING – IT PAYS TO PLAN BEFORE YOU LEAVE Financial planning before, during and after separation and divorce is vital to make sure that wealth is not destroyed as part of the splitting up process. Many people think about separation long before they leave and it is good to plan your finances before […]

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