Most Australian kids do well after divorce, but that will be up to you. Divorce can be damaging for children, but it isn’t usually the divorce itself that causes lasting hurt for children, but rather the parental conflict surrounding the divorce. When parents are in conflict, children will also experience the tension and feel like they are in the middle. They may feel like messengers or peacekeepers.
Family conflict during and after separation can lead to ongoing dysfunction, and if that happens, your children will be affected emotionally and even developmentally.
People are often tempted to project their emotions on to their financial settlement. You will be feeling angry, hurt, defensive or fearful of the future and all of these emotions can drive you to one goal: a bigger piece of the settlement pie, using adversarial methods to get that.
Approaching a settlement this way is bad for everyone because, in the end, you will both end up with less. Conflict drags out the divorce process and you end up wasting money on legal fees.
Dealing with conflict day in and day out isn’t good for anyone. Prolonged, conflict ridden divorces can cause psychological and physical health problems to everyone in a family.
Getting a divorce through the court system can take years. That’s years of stress and fighting that will be damaging to your wellbeing.