Amongst the most challenging aspects of separation is confusion. That tends to be about almost everything, but definitely includes the question of who you should turn to for professional advice.
Most people think that their first step should be to seek the advice of a traditional lawyer, or even one with a reputation for being aggressive. However, that is actually about the worst way to address the challenges you face.
Later in this paper you will learn more about collaborative lawyers and non-legal advisors, such as financial planners, psychologists and counsellors who can help you with your separation dilemmas right from the start, and who can guide you towards the path that is most likely to help you.
If you do plan to see a lawyer as your first port of call, take the time to find one who can help you achieve your goals without all the collateral damage. That means choosing a lawyer who will keep you out of court, and who has a track-record as a highly skilled listener and negotiator. Most likely that will mean they have training in mediation, collaboration, or in social science.
Separation isn’t solely a legal process; it deeply impacts your emotional wellbeing. Psychologists and counsellors can provide invaluable support during this time, helping you navigate the chaotic feelings that often accompany separation. By addressing the emotional challenges head-on, you can make more rational decisions and avoid actions driven by stress or anger.
Choosing the right professionals to guide you through the separation process can make a significant difference in the outcome. The goal is to emerge from this challenging time feeling empowered and prepared for the next chapter of your life.
This excerpt is from ‘Breaking Up Without Breaking Down’ – Dr Tina Sinclair, Tricia Peters and Marguerite Picard which can be purchased via Amazon – https://www.amazon.com.au/Breaking-Up-Without-Down-Preserving/dp/0992317665
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